Two very very different things
Swinging. I very briefly touched on Swinging in a previous post. Its active in my area for sure.
“Swinging, sometimes called wife swapping, husband swapping or partner swapping, is a sexual activity in which both singles and partners in a committed relationship sexually engage with others for recreational purposes. Swinging is a form of non-monogamy and is an open relationship. People may choose a swinging lifestyle for a variety of reasons. Many cite an increased quality and quantity of sex. Some people may engage in swinging to add variety into their otherwise conventional sex lives or due to their curiosity. Some couples see swinging as a healthy outlet and means to strengthen their relationship.
The phenomenon of swinging, or at least its wider discussion and practice, is regarded by some as arising from the freer attitudes to sexual activity after the sexual revolution of the 1960s, the invention and availability of the contraceptive pill, and the emergence of treatments for many of the sexually transmitted diseases that were known at that time. The adoption of safe sex practices became more common in the late 1980s.
The swinger community sometimes refers to itself as “the lifestyle”, or as “the alternative lifestyle”.”
Oddly enough Alternative Lifestyles cover many things, including BDSM and various ethical practices and beliefs.
Polyamory Symbol Creative Commons LicencePolamoury
“Polyamory (from Greek πολύ poly, “many, several”, and Latin amor, “love”) is the practice of, or desire for, intimate relationships with more than one partner, with the informed consent of all partners involved. It has been described as “consensual, ethical, and responsible non-monogamy”. People who identify as polyamorous believe in an open relationship with a conscious management of jealousy; they reject the view that sexual and relational exclusivity are necessary for deep, committed, long-term loving relationships. Other people prefer to restrict their sexual activity to only members of the group. This type of closed polyamory relationships are usually referred to as polyfidelity.
Polyamory has come to be an umbrella term for various forms of non-monogamous, multi-partner relationships, or non-exclusive sexual or romantic relationships. Its usage reflects the choices and philosophies of the individuals involved, but with recurring themes or values, such as love, intimacy, honesty, integrity, equality, communication, and commitment”
Neither practices come under the umbrella of BDSM, but those practicing either can have interests in BDSM as part of their kinks or lifestyle.
I consider myself polyamorous but currently practice a monogamous relationship. Polyamory is one of the hardest types of relationship, trust and acceptance is a key, and jealousy is common and one of the harder areas to overcome. It can be very rewarding as different partners can offer each other different levels, areas and manners of love and satisfaction. Where it IS incorporated in BDSM it can be one person is perhaps more Dominant, and can offer some things a ‘primary’ partner cannot.
I’ve never been into swinging (despite once staying ‘accidentally’ in a swingers hotel!
To summarise Swingers tend to be far more oriented towards sexual pleasure, Polyamory towards relationships and affection.
Are you either, comment or get in touch if you like my posts.