50 shades of reality – Chris and Stacy?

If Christian Grey wasn’t posh and wealthy?

A strange thought came to mind a few days ago. On how BDSM has been portrayed in film and everyday life.

Incidentally I hold that for an author who isn’t in to kink, she must have seen or watched at least ’The Secretary or some other erotic books in her youth), but had been taken in by ’Twighlight’ Fantasy romance and fan fiction. And attending an all girls Grammar School, could have some influence 😉

Incidentally I think the similarities between ’The Secretary’ and 50 Shades are too uncanny. 

Take 50 shades.  Christian Grey the lead in the ‘current mommy porn televised books’ and Anastasia.

Now a simplified name of Christian in Chris and and a common variation on Anastasia is Stacy.

Would the books have read the same if Chris and Stacy got together? Or the films?

Hints at BDSM pop up in common TV series, everything from Midsomer Murders to the hilarious ‘Stella’  to teen comedy Misfits!

The Reality of a a BDSM Chris and Stacy story would probably involve a council flat or semi with a kinky garage or loft conversion dungeon! And maybe occasional membership of a swingers club (again not necessary BDSM) or a visits to a bespoke hotel, plus a decent trade with LoveHoney or Ann Summers!

The majority of the population may not experience BDSM, but may at some point in life ‘experiment’ However its such a broad area that people go from regular club attendance, to creating ‘home dungeons’ or focusing on a few particular fetishes.


I know very few people that are able to live a 24/7 commitment. Those that do have ‘good health, and some form of steady income.

The majority have regular jobs and maybe reasonable health with at least one partner. Although this may be a false description as plenty of people with health conditions and disabilities find BDSM a fantastic outlet or part of life.

Theres no doubt that money helps to ‘buy stuff and do things’.

https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/thumb/3/36/Muzzle_gag2.jpg/1024px-Muzzle_gag2.jpg
https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/3/36/Muzzle_gag2.jpg

With 5 books of the 50 shades series (and 3 films ) so far I’ve only read one, and possibly seen a couple of films! 

BDSM in the media.

According to Maria Claire

The following are the Top BDSM Movies of Merit.

While I don’t agree with all, if your into the BDSM mainstream movie genre they are worth a look. I certainly have a soft spot for Billy Piper in Secret Diary of a Call Girl, and 9 1/2 weeks and Basic Instinct are classics with merit!
Bonding, too was a very enjoyable comical but realistic series.

Personally I think B Movie BDSM films should be watched by all beginners, such as ‘The Pet’, under supervisions.
For all the tacky acting. This is a dark film of where ‘play’ can lead to abuse, and in the films end theme human trafficking, which sadly is still very very real in 2020!
2006 

“A young woman in dire financial straights accepts an offer to be a wealthy aristocrat’s human “pet” for six months. Then ruthless modern “pet-nappers” kidnap the woman to sell her on the GSM (Global Slave Market). ”

Themes of The Pet include 
https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Film/ThePet

Its not to be confused with the later 2016 film ‘Pet’ (but sometimes also miscalled The Pet, just to confuse things which is much more of a physiological thriller exploring fanatical fetishism and abuse.

Keep Educated, Keep Safe.

Cover pick from PickPik licence free images
Its worth adding the Music Features a good deal in ‘making, rather than breaking’ the film.

One thought on “50 shades of reality – Chris and Stacy?”

  1. Hmm.. I actually berated The Pet and Secretary, I didn’t enjoy either at all. The Pet I found far too extreme and Secretary I found her far too much of a ‘good girl’, lifeless and dull. The very reason I like 50 Shades is because Ana is sarcastic and playful. “You insist on defying me Mrs Grey, what am I going to do about that?” “Learn to live with it”. Sound like someone you know? 😉

    When it comes to names, I find it interesting. I don’t think you can really judge someone’s wealth based on their name. Take for example, Chris Hemsworth, he’s an actor and worth millions, but he is still a Chris. I like Anastasia as a name but I wouldn’t think of someone’s economical status for having such a name, I just think it’s a beautiful name. If you prefer short names or full names, that’s all up to you. I would, however, grimace at a name like Stacey, just because from my experience, anyone with a given name of “Stacey” tends to lack finesse, Stacey Solomon springs to mind here. To add on that, and if you were really paying attention, Christian typically calls Anastasia “Ana” and so, to quote the very protagonist herself here, your point is moot 😉

    Rolling with that again, I also think we need to understand what real world BDSM looks like, because it looks like very different things to very different people. For some it might just be some furry handcuffs and a vibrator, and that’s okay. Maybe Big Jim down the road really has converted his old garage into a dungeon, and that’s cool too. People have different priorities, different limitations and different incomes, and I think that instead of hating on those who can have more than us (even if they are fictional), we need to find what works for us. If someone, a real someone can afford to create a Red Room, that’s all up to them. I’ve got some £20 multicolour LED lights that I just put on red when the mood strikes. It’s perfectly functional, why spend more? It looks like a perfectly nice, perfectly modest bedroom/office when the lights are turned off 😉

    With all that being said, I do agree that 50 Shades focuses excessively on the wealth and it’s why I try to highlight what real BDSM relationships look like on my blog. I find it good that it focuses on the fact that we also have family commitments, jobs and stresses, but not so good that those family dinners are elaborate five course affairs and that those “stresses” are jealous ex-bosses and unstable exes. At the end of the day, I think any movie is intended to be an escape from reality and we need to not lose sight of that. Case in point, I don’t recall the International Space Station ever looking anything like the Millennium Falcon, do you? 😉

    Stay safe xx

    Like

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s