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Please enjoy the journal, More about me can be found here:

Inspired by my fellow blogger Tenshadesandme, this is a new format, new in the ‘not another wordpress site’ style.
I first started an ‘Adult’ Journal , on July 6th, 2006 on the defunct platform of LiveJournal. Although my interest, nay, passion now for BDSM stems from the late 80’s.
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Introducing subk – a blast from the past.

The original submission  text of this was 500 words precisely.  Some edits mean the word count is a little less.

The Task. 500 words precisely titled ‘Why I deserve to be your slut.
 This is a little snipped of my early history back in the early 2000’s when I began creating erotica and writing about BDSM online.

SubK was a young black beautiful woman. And I’m talking wonderful ebony black skin, great mind. Sadly we didn’t spend enough time together.  It sparked my interest in interracial fantasies and play (and I since had the pleasure of a young and innocent Indian submissive, who was certainly not young and innocent for long.

Dear Sir,

* What I’ve learnt *

Positions I’ve learnt:
Standing up, hands by my side
Standing up, hands behind the back of my head, with arms straight horizontal
Kneeling, hands behind my head
Kneeling, hands behind my back
On all fours
On all fours, palms flat on the floor, arse up
Lying on my front, with legs together
Lying on my back, with legs wide
Lying on my back, spreadeagled

Rules for me:
25 spanks on each cheek

* Why I deserve to be your slut

I deserve to be your slut because I can made you smile.

I deserve to be your slut because l want to serve you. I need to serve you. I want to
kneel at your feet and I need to have you inspect me all over.

I deserve to be your slave because thinking about you touching me and spanking
me is making it difficult to type this. I deserve to be your slave because the sound of
me spanking myself is pleasing to your ears, because the sounds I make when you
make me cum make you hard, because I’m a good little slut, *your good little slut.

I deserve to be your slut because I love to spread my legs for you, parting them as
wide as I can. I deserve to be your slut because my favourite positions are
whatever ones please you most. I deserve to be your slut because slapping my
nipples and thinking of you doing that to me makes me lose control and I need to
be punished for it. Over and over.

I deserve to be your slut because I need to feel your fingers on the surface of my
skin, tweaking my nipples and slipping inside me.

I deserve to be your slut because I don’t trust myself to control myself around you. I
need you to take control of me.

I deserve to be your slut because l’m worth waiting for. i)

Sluttily yours,

Whats new in the world

Well the world itself is going to Hell in A Handbasket (great album).

In my bubble of Kink and BDSM.  
I”m chatting a lot more to KinkyWithaTwist
My Fetlife profile is updated.
I’m seriously looking into using fabswingers for local ‘non sex’ but kinky photoshoots etc.
I’m pondering about LinkedIn! 

I’m working on internal relationships and decluttering my life. Must do better! 

I haven’t had the muse/energy to write any kinky stories/erotica lately. Although someone mentioned Sex Swings to me today, so maybe thats a story!

My health is..   Stable, but FUCK CKD  

The Pronouns Thing – Happy Pride Month

What are pronouns?
Pronouns are a set of words that can stand in a sentence in place of a person’s name for ease of flow. Typically pronouns are tied to gender, so the conscious use of pronouns is important to respecting gender identity.

Many people use he/him and she/her pronouns, which are typically tied to male and female genders.

TMI Tuesday – possibly first and last

How to play TMI Tuesday: Copy the above TMI Tuesday questions to your webspace (i.e., a blog). Answer the questions there, then leave a comment below, on this blog post, so we’ll all know where to read your responses. Please don’t forget to link to tmituesdayblog from your website!

Thanks to Helen at https://kinkywithatwist.com

Happy TMI Tuesday!


We need to know:

1. What is the best sandwich? 

It really has to be a club,I had some years back. It was pouring with rain, I was out with a girlfriend, and I think we’d been to the cinema hoping for a walk round a rather dismal shopping centre (Mall)  We popped into this amazing deli cafe on the A1, a main STROAD in London. So damn good its made the cover photo for this post.
The rest of the time I’ll settle for decent bread and butter (has to be butter) and a good filling. Ham & Cheese is commonplace for my plate. But I’ll go for a New Yorker when I’m in the mood. Although I’ll go for a quality gherkin (pickle cucumber) as an essential part. 

2. Scariest animal?
Not sure. Never been that keen on snakes close up.

3. Ever asked someone for an autograph?
Yeah, probably. 

4. Favourite action movie? T
Tough one. Possibly one of the DC/Marvel or other sci fi

5. Fave rom-com?
Probably Bernard & the Genie   its an old Xmas Special, rarely re shown, def not PC but with a good cast. I’ve a soft spot for Alan Cummings too,

6. Window or aisle?
Depending on my mood. You can escape more easily from the aisle, the window has a better view (on bus, trains etc:)

7. Favorite smell?
Petrichor  well maybe.   I love the smell of arousal – its hidden, but deep.

8. Least favourite smell?
Anything strongly artificial, or thats gone off.

9. Most used app on your phone?

10. You only get one song to listen to for the rest of your life, what is it?
Something by Queen, or Meatloaf.. But one song. Your killing me already!

Bonus: Describe the rest of your life in five words.

Uncertain, Confusing, Foodie, Routine & Dirty!

A Right Royal Cup of Tea

Coming in on Kinky With a Twist’s post.

A guide to a great British Cup of tea, as our Monarch celebrates 70 years on the throne.

While ‘ruling’ etc is another topic. Actually our Royals are more an establishment with the Government doing the ‘Ruling’ over the masses, wether they like it or not.
Whatever your views, Britain Might Well Be  worse without a Royal background and culture.

The teabag has been around since 1920, supposedly, initially made of silk and aimed to reduce waste tea leaves and create ’the right portion’ for a cup of tea.

Urban dictionary covers 5 pages to the word Tea!
The comedy songwriter Professor Elemental dedicates a whole song to  tea in  ‘A Cup of Brown Joy’  Around the World in 80 Brews.

‘Builders Tea’ refers to a strong brew of tea, served in a mug. 

Individuals can be fussy about their brand of tea. In the UK there’s very wide variety of branded teas, sold as bags or ‘loose leaf’. Many have long running ’soap box opera’ advertising storylines behind them that run through generations, with slogans and characters changing over the decades. These adverts have often been combined with collectable merchandise. 

Different teas are suited to different water qualities. Some areas of the UK have very ‘hard’ water (water with a high calcium content’ and certain teas taste better in those areas. Subject to opinion, of course.

Tea pots are still very much a ’THING’ in Britain. Especially with those interested in wartime and post war history. 

Cafes still serve tea in pots in the UK.
It’s not unusual to see ‘A Pot of Tea’ on the menu in many British cafes and restaurants.

For a traditional British brew, boiling water is poured into a tea pot with loose leaf tea, and often covered with a tea cosy.
Then poured and strained. Depending on preference milk and sugar, honey or sweetener may be added AFTER the milk.  
Most don’t bother with the ceremony of tea making this way, preferring a cup, mug and a tea bag. In cafes often you’ll find a pot of tea with tea bags in.

Some teas such as Earl Grey are usually served without milk, and sometimes with a slice of lemon.
There’s somewhat of a debate about milk in Earl Grey tea. So always ask your local Brit!:) 

Earl Grey is best for making your own superior Iced Lemon Teas.

Tea is of course Indian or Chinese, but it is possible to grow tea in the UK!

The water should be at boiling point. This is why its so hard to get a good cup of tea in many places as the ‘instant water’ used for coffee is just below the optimum temp.

Coffee Cake and Kink, and ’Friendly Tea Munches’ are social events in the BDSM world. Sometimes based on quality tea establishments, or Tea Rooms the also serve a good quantity of snacks and cake (snacks in the UK can refer to sandwiches/ etc).

I personally favour ‘Clipper’ tea, or at a pinch a good PG tips. Although I’ve also purchase a cup strainer for loose leaf tea.

The girl with the blue dungarees

Yesterday I was out with the girl for a to see a church Musical, Godspell.

While the film is pretty good, this production was pure Am Dram!

Most entertaining was a homeless guy sat next to us who was doing a decent amount of amusing positive heckling. Despite being pretty exhausted, if the rest of the crowed had joined in it would have livened up the classic middle class audience to a tee. 

There were a good few laughs. However, not my cup of tea to be fair. I’ve nothing against org religion but when it starts including ours is the only, or better than. Yes I know it was scripted musical, but still.  Not my comfort zone.

If you want to debate belief and theology with me, I’m more drawn to pagan/hinduism/openminded agnostic.

Getting back to the point. One of the performers, wearing blue dungarees, and slight pigtails in her hair, strongly reminded me of a girl I danced with at a club at least 10 years ago. Most likely it wasn’t her of course. But England isn’t a massive country and in that time, well people do move and travel!

It was a friends birthday, and basically me and my mate were out on the pull. We had a few drinks, danced pretty intimately, with a good amount of grinding. And I wanted her. Even gave her my number  – she never called of course. Christ I had the hots for that girl on the night!

In my mind I’d have taken her back to my mates flat, and had good writhing raw, slightly drunken sex with a decent amount of cock worship, spanking, and hair pulling!
And maybe a good half day on waking after a shower and light breakfast.

 How young and innocent I was! Lol Ideally she’d have a friend,  and it would have been a good night for both me and my mate.

I drink less now, but back then I limited my drinks, intermittently with soft drinks. Makes a night more enjoyable. And I like to be in CONTROL 😀  And even in a nightclub, not my fave place, I aim to make the most of a night!

In reality. My mate got very drunk. Swore at the doorman, argued with the taxi driver and jacked off to a premium rate cam phone on adult TV when we got back.
THEN had a hell of a hangover the next day and couldn’t remember stuff! LOL

So.. If your the girl in the blue dungarees.. I’ve been thinking of you! 😀  You and me.. Alone and having fun! 

Positive post

Nothing kinky.

I just wanted to post something positive.

YES, Russia’s invasion, is a terrible and fearful thing.
It is bringing the best out of humanity in so many nearby countries. From Germany opening family homes to refugees to the UK groups getting stuff shipped to Poland.
The UK Gov is fearfully lacking behind (mostly a few of the party ‘inner circle, wanting to stick to their ‘zero immigration/security risk policies’) They don’t have FULL support of their fellow conservatives. 
Russian youth are are protesting against the war (despite the serious risk of brutal arrest) and a ‘silent walk’ protest. Organised in the same methods as the XR silent walks. Non disruptive, non violent. These have been going on today. Sun 6th March in the last few hours GMT). (source REDDIT)

So there are those on both sides, who do NOT support the invasion, or dangers of the rash actions of a few power hungry fools! 

SNIPPET POST – Positive news

“Sex and cancer might not be the most obvious
bedfellows, but two survivors of the disease hope to tackle the twin
taboos with the launch of a pioneering erotic store
The UK’s first online sex shop for people living with and beyond cancer – sexwithcancer.com – has been launched by two friends and artists.”

The UK’s first sex shop for people with cancer has launched

Zero Kinkfuckery

I’m still here. Debating wether to scrap this blog all together.  Health has gone downhill in the past 2 months, meaning any play has gone into deep hibernation, or possibly cryogenic stasis!.

Relationships, and friendships ebb and flow, as does the river of life.
Enjoy whatever celebrations you may have at this time of year.

40 Kinky personal questions answered

40 Kinky personal generic questions answered

Nicked from Kinky with a Twist.  Who does propper blogging and more research and stuff!

1 Have you ever had sex in three or more positions in one session?
Does a long oral warm up count? Then yes! 

2. Have you ever had sex continuously for 1 hour or more?
Ditto to 1

3. Have you ever devoted an entire day to sex and sexual activity (with breaks for eating, etc)?
Well, when you’ve booked a hotel. I mean are we talking 9-5 or going for a 24 marathon. Certainly the best part of a day when that day is for the purpose

4. Have you ever been so loud having sex that housemates/neighbours commented or complained?

5. Have you ever had your sexual technique/style/skill openly praised by someone?
I’ve been told I have magic fingers, and my tongue was mistaken for a vibrator! 

6. Have you ever written an explicitly erotic story? 
Yes, many, Since my teens. Non published, as yet.

7. Have you ever brought your partner to orgasm using only your hands?
Magic fingers 😉

8. Have you ever licked or sucked on someone else’s feet and/or toes?
Yes, it can be quite a turn on. Or a turn off if your not into it.

9. Have you ever had sex with someone you’re not married to?
Well I’ve never been married so yes!

10. Have you ever had sex with someone who’s married to someone else?
No, not that I know of.

11. Have you ever had sex simultaneously with two people—MMF? MFF?
A few times, not PIV, but my first sexual experience was being sandwiched between 2 beautiful young BBW

12. Have you ever had anal sex?  If toys count? Cock in arse. No!

13. Have you ever gone out in public while wearing an anal plug? Nope, but I’ve had partners who have.

14. Have you ever been told you’re dirty because of the things you say? 
What can I say, I am a filthy beast!

15. Have you ever gotten really turned on by saying or hearing dirty talk?
For as long as I can remember. A picture may paint a thousand words, but words paint a picture.

16. Have you ever had sexual fantasies related to or involving submission, domination, suppression, forced intercourse, infliction of pain, bondage, hot wax, nipples clamps, etc…
Yes, it’s more common than you think from an early age in mostly males. Over 60 percent of women fantasies on being Dominated. Often strong women enjoy submitting in the bedroom

17. Have you ever been involved in any sexual activities you would describe as kinky?
How long have we got? Yes for about the last decade.

18. Have you ever realized that you are much more sexually open-minded/kinky than most of your previous partners and/or friends? Yes, but its really hard to tell without conversation who openminded or kinky people are. Most of the time.

19. Have you ever been part of an S/M roleplay (master/mistress/slave), domination (as the dominant/submissive part), or being victim of pain (such as whipping, caning, hot wax on genitals, nipple clamps/genital clamps etc.)?
Yes. Some may be uncomfortable with the word victim. But from a young age many play at ‘power exchange’ role-play games. Such as prison, police, hunting, relationships, and other pre sexuality make believe games.


20. Have you ever identified as bisexual–to yourself? to partners? to friends?
Identifided or introduced?. I have bi fantasies, bit not open to the masses.

21. Have you ever fantasized about or practiced orgasm control/denial?
Yes, it can be enjoyable. ‘Edging’ self denial is big in the online world at the moment. Orgasm control of others is enjoyable but needs to be done with care. If a relationship breaks up for example. The ‘controlled’ person can find it hard to orgasm without ‘permission’ 

22. Have you ever daydreamed about sexual activities exceeding what most people consider “normal” sex?
All the time

23. Have you ever gotten really turned on by fantasising about/witnessing gay or lesbian sex?


24. Have you ever tried scissoring? Well it doesn’t just apply to women. Can be multigender. 
It can be rewarding, but it’s a position that requires warmed up muscles. Certain similar positions are used in Tantric sex, warm ups.

25. Have you ever performed oral sex on a man?

26. Have you ever performed oral sex on a woman?

27. Have you ever received oral sex from a man?
No, but its a bi fantasy/not yet.

28. Have you ever received oral sex from a woman.  Yes.  But Girls, LEARN about a blokes anatomy as much as you would your own. Porn oral isn’t the answer!

29. How old were you the first time you had sex?
in my 20’s

30. Where? Girlfriends bedroom

31. How many partners? it really depends. First sexual experience. 2 

32. Have you ever practiced BDSM on yourself (bondage, nipple clamps, hot wax, suction, electro-stim, etc etc etc)  Yes    If your gonna do it to others, try it yourself.

33. Have you had more or fewer lovers than your current partner?
ts a bit of a pointless question, but numerically, probably.

34. Have you ever had sex in front of other people?
No, but I’ve worn very little in front of others in a sexual situation, where others were ‘getting to it’

35. Did you know them? Some of them

36. Did you like it? Vanilla is overrated! 

37. Have you ever had a crush on a fellow blogger here on WordPress?
Well I only ‘know’ one really!

38. Have you ever met anyone through AFF, OKCupid, Kassidie, or another site?

Other sites, yes.

39. Have you ever had an orgasm without any direct stimulation (not counting dreams)?
Most likely yes!

40. Do you like being called dirty names during sex?
Its kinda part of fun sex, eh?  

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